Please Help!

   I just read the excerpt and it was AMAZING!!!!! I almost wish I hadn’t read it because now, I cannot wait for it to come out! Anyways, I have a question: I have this best friend, and we have been best friends for 10 years. All of a sudden, I just cannot stand her! I don’t want to lose her as a best friend, because I know that I will get over this soon (hopefully), but I just don’t want to be around her anymore and it seems like she is superglued to me! I know that when people have been close to each other for a while they have to have a breaking point sometime, but mine has come, and hers hasn’t. I feel like I’m being suffocated and like I’m not allowed to have other friends. Help please! I have no idea what to do because nothing like this has ever happened to me. Thanks so much! You are the best author ever!!!!!
Phyllis replied:
This is so hard, I know.  You’ve been best friends for a long time, and you’ve probably become too dependent on each other.  You’ve begun to realize this, but she hasn’t.  I think it’s probably best to come right out and tell her how you feel.  Explain that really good friends want what is best for each other, and you feel that both of you need to expand a little bit.  Perhaps it would make it easier if you arranged to get together once a week, even for a short time, and–jokingly, if you like–tell each other at least one new thing you’ve done or tried during the week.  Include other girls or guys sometimes in what you do, so that you’re widening your circle of friends but still including each other.  This will probably either help you grow apart if you’re pulling in different directions, or make you value your relationship all the more.
Posted on: May 10, 2009


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