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I just want to say you are my favorite writer in the whole world

Question:
I just want to say you are my favorite writer in the whole world. When ever I read an Alice book I can’t put it down it’s almost impossible for me to put it down. Once I read five of them in one day. I get so excited when I fine a new Alice book. I read all the Alice books in my school library and public library. I don’t want Alice to come to an end I will most likely cry. I’ve cried many times before reading your books. Thanks so much for writing about Alice.

PHYLLIS Replied:
I’ll cry too. I’m glad I still have four more books to write before I let her go.

You are my favorite author and the Alice series is my favorite series.

Question:
I have read 5+ Alice books and my brother has read SHILOH and I have enjoyed reading every single one of each Alice book. My favorite is Alice in Rapture, sort of. I can relate to many of the topics you write about. I have recommended many of them to my friends and they have enjoyed them, too. I have the Alice Upside Down movie and then I read The Agony of Alice and they do not really seem alike, but I can see how they used the book to create the movie.Every time my teacher tells us to clear our desks of our books, it is ALWAYS so hard to put down an Alice book.
I have just finished Alice in Lace. I especially like the parts where Pamela puts on Mrs. Price’s maternity tops and puts the pillow up underneath it. Sometimes I just have to read things over and over again and just laugh out loud. I LOVE the part about Mark Stedmeister in the very beginning asking Mr. Everett what kinds of problems there might be a Mr. Everett says “Anything from totaling a car from having a baby.” and Mark says ” Moi? A baby?” That was one of the times I had to laugh out loud.
I have really enjoyed reading your books and at first even I find it hard to believe, that Alice in Blunder land was just a fill in book while I was waiting for another book to get in at our school library. Since then, I have RARELY read a book other than that in the Alice series. You are my favorite author and the Alice series is my favorite series. I continue to be a fan of your books and am even thinking of doing an author study on you.

Thank you very much for reading my letter and my friends think you are an amazing author as well.

PHYLLIS Replied:
I’m delighted that you enjoy the books so much, because I have such a good time writing them!

Question: Can you give me some examples of how to do foreplay?

Question:
Hello, I’m seventeen, and a big fan of your books. Sex is such an interesting subject. Can you give me some examples of how to do foreplay? And also I want to have sex with my boyfriend how should i do it?

PHYLLIS Replied:
This is for real, right? You’re not sitting there with three of your 17 year-old girlfriends laughing your heads off, wondering if Phyllis will fall for this? Here’s what I’m thinking: sex is more than an “interesting topic.” It’s not as though I can give you steps one through ten. Foreplay is something couples do together as they feel closer and closer together, and want to touch each other more intimately with hands, fingers, lips, tongues. And if you really do not know how a man and a woman would go about having sex without specific directions, you are truly not ready for this.

Looking forward to following the life of Alice McKinley as long as you wish to write about it.

Question:
To identify myself, I am a father. My 7 year old discoved the Alice movie because of Lucas Gabreel from the HSM movies. With her age I started to look into the movie, it being about middle school. I watched the trailer and got your name off one of the synopsis pages. I checked out a couple of the books to read and be sure they were not beyond her. This was mid December. I did let her see the movie and have since been reading the entire series. I have about 3 to go. When my daughter is older I will start them with her. As a parent and former teacher I find your books to be a wonderful guide platform. I like that Alice, on her own or through her friends, is dealing with real world issues on a regular basis. What I think is even better is that they are not overdone. Frequently an author will put so much emphasis on an issue that they have no story. Issues come into your b! ooks, they are addressed, solutions or plans to correct are mentioned and the story still progresses. Again a platform from which to start looking for help if needed. Not being a girl, I certainly am not going to say I wish I had these as a girl growing up, but as I look to doing more and more between school and my daughters Girl Scouts, friends etc, I will certainly have Alice on my suggested reading list for the girls I encounter.

Looking forward to following the life of Alice McKinley as long as you wish to write about it.

PHYLLIS Replied:
Thanks so much for writing to me. Always a pleasure to hear from a parent on this website. Your daughter will soon be ready for the first of the 3 prequels of the Alice series, “Starting with Alice.” It’s wonderful that you plan to share the books with her, so that she can ask you questions as she progresses. I wish there were more dads like you!

Question: Could you tell me something about yourself or something that inspired you to write Blizzard’s Wake?

Question:
I’ve read every book in the library in my town by you. You are honestly my favorite author of all time so when my teacher told us to pick any book and do a book report worth 3 test grades i picked one of your books. Even though your Alice books are my favorite I picked blizzards wake. I was wondering if you could write to me so i can put what you say in my book report im supposed to have a section in my report about the author. Could you tell me something about yourself or something that inspired you to write this book? Im pretty sure that im the only one in school to write to the author so that will make my report unique. Also I had a girl in my school read the agony of alice and she loved it shes doing a report on it I also had all of my friends read the alice series too!

PHYLLIS Replied:
I was supposed to give a talk at a conference in North Dakota, but a huge storm blew in, and the conference ended early. One of the librarians took me to her home to wait for the Amtrak train due in that evening. As the blizzard grew more fierce, however, the arrival time for the train grew later and later. Finally I suggested that the librarian and her husband go on to bed, and I would keep calling Amtrak and would wake them 45 minutes before the train was due to arrive. They did, and in the stillness of the house, with the wind whipping outside the window and the snow piling up, I picked up a self-published book by two newspaper reporters, recounting the blizzard in the Red Valley States of March, 1941. The true life stories were so harrowing that they helped connect a plot that had already been forming in my head, and when I finally got back home to Maryland, I knew that Blizzard’s Wake was a sto! ry I just had to write.

Question: I need some major advice on this problem…

Question:
Hi !I need some major advice on this problem its just that I used to study really very well but now I keep crushing on everyother cute boy in my school and they just keep distracting me from my studies and then I told myself okay no more boys ,no more crushes but just after A FEW days i got a crush on this other boy but i just want to stop crushing on boys for some time and concenrate on my studies pls tell me what to do!

PHYLLIS Replied:
If you get distracted that easily, and crushes come at you like cars on a speedway, do what grandmas used to suggest: put a rubber band on your wrist, and every time you feel a crush coming on, snap it hard against your skin. No guarantees.

Question: Can u give us a hint of who will die [in Intensely Alice]?

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Dear Phyllis, the alice series is my favorite book series ever and is like candy, or medicine, everytime im in a horrible mood i just read one of those books and am immediately happy again. Im sooooooooooooooooooooo excited about Intensly Alice and after reading the summary i dont think i can wait! I would sell every book i own just to read that! Can u give us a hint of who will die(because in the summary you said theres a funeral). Is it unexpected? Just give ANY hint even if it doesnt tell anything about the plot. I can not WAIT until that bok comes out! Oh yeah, and on the cover is that supposed to be Alice and Patrick?

PHYLLIS Replied:
About all I can tell you is that Alice has to deal with a lot of questions. And she and Patrick are particularly close.

Question: My step dad always shows this “affection” towards me…

Question:
Hello! Listen PN, I understand that you already get tons of fans asking for advice or what have you, but you were the first person I thought of. *breathes in* okay..this is hard but here I go. I’m a junior in high school. I maintain good grades and I am NO trouble maker. I have an AMAZING boyfriend who I swear I think I might marry. My family is great. My mother is everything to me. She has a husband who is well, obviously my STEP-DAD. He is a nice man, a prof. in college and also a high school teacher. He’s nice to me and the rest of our family. He and my older brother had sort of a “falling out” and niether of them speak to eachother. My step dad has 2 daughters and a son from a previous marriage. Anyways, it’s..wierd..because my step dad always shows this “affection” towards me. He doesn’t do this to his other daughters. He tells me because “i can’t think of another way to show you i lo! ve you”. There are times where his hand will “swift” past my breast or where he’ll pinch my butt. A few months ago, he’ll tell me to give him kisses on his lips. I didn’t want to. So he’ll automatically get really sad. He’ll just shut down and not talk to me. My mother tells me he “does a lot for you” and that i shouldn’t be selfish. My mother doesn’t know he’s doing THOSE things. Don’t get me wrong, my step dad is really cool. Recently, I’ve been getting NIGHTMARES about him. He’ll just be touching me in my dreams, and I’ll wake up crying. One time, I was asleep in my boyfriend’s arms and I had yet another nightmare about that. I woke up shaking and my heart beating. My boyfriend asked me what had happened in my nightmare but I just couldn’t tell him what is going on. I broke down in tears when my boyfriend told me “i’m always going to protect you, if you’re in danger, i’ll run to you”. I LOVE my boyfriend so much! . Here is another dillema: my step-dad won’t let me have a boyfriend. At ALL. My mom is completely fine with it. Also, my mother loves my step dad dearly. Another reason why I can’t tell her what’s going on. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to live like this till the end of my senior year. I just can’t wait to get out of here.

PHYLLIS Replied:
This is such a classic case of sexual abuse that it should really be in a text book. I know: he hasn’t raped you or forced his hands in your pants or crept in your room at night. So far. He’s a probably-respected teacher and professor and your mom loves him. But he sure is a sexual manipulator. He’s an adult. You’re a minor child. He knows he would be in big trouble if he did something truly overt sexually, but he gets his jollies by looking you over, pinching your butt, brushing by your breasts, insisting you kiss him on the lips. I’m not too sure what’s going on with your mom that she thinks “you should not be selfish,” but she’s looking at him through rose-colored glasses. Here’s what I suggest: when your mom is not around to hear this, you need to tell him you have something you want to say. You need to say this without smiling, without yelling, without giving in to his sad looks or gentle ! voice. Put this in your own words, but here goes: “I want you to know that I want this sort of thing to stop.” (When he looks surprised and says, what sort of thing? you name them–the butt pinching, the kissing, etc.) He’ll tell you you’re imagining things, that this was your thought, not his, that he had no idea you took them as sexual actions which must say that you are attracted to him, etc. etc. etc. Don’t listen. Tell him that you don’t want him to touch you in this manner, you don’t want to kiss him on the lips, you are not his girlfriend. That if he doesn’t stop it, you will report it, and what’s more, you’ll tell your mom. He will undoubtedly put on a sulking fit, your mom will ask what’s wrong, and you can simply say, “Ask him.” As a senior, you should be allowed to have a boyfriend, and you might tell your stepdad that too. For additional help in dealing with him, try this toll-free number: 1-800-273-399! 1. Here’s one more thing you might try if your conversation with him doesn’t make him stop. The next time he touches you inappropriately, say, loud enough for your mom to hear, “Quit touching me there!” And leave the room. Let your mom ask HIM what that was all about. Maybe she’ll get the picture.

Question: I’m a senior right now and having a lot of trouble with the idea of leaving…

Question:
I am a huge fan of the Alice books and I’m very excited to see Alice deal with her senior year of high school. I’m a senior right now and having a lot of trouble with the idea of leaving–I was wondering if you could help me.

I’ve lived in the same small town for my entire life, so I’ve never really had to get out there and meet new people before. I have a small yet extremely close group of friends in my high school…we’ve been friends since ninth grade and I’m scared to death I won’t meet people like them next year. Also, my high school is very small–everybody knows everybody and the teachers all know the students outside of school–so I’m worried about dealing with a huge college campus next year.

So much of who I am is defined based on my relationships with these people I’ve known forever, so when I leave and I don’t have these people around me all the time, I’m scared I’ll completely lose myself. At the same time, I know these relationships I’ve cultivated will never be the same. Saying goodbye will be rough but I know I have to move on with my life and this is something everyone has to deal with. I feel like if I screw this up then my entire life will change and I’ll be miserable all four years of college.

All of my friends are so excited to leave our small town, and I seem to be the only one who’s really sentimental and worried about leaving. Do you have any advice for me?

PHYLLIS Replied:
It’s wonderful to have a small group of close friends, and I understand your reluctance and anxiety about leaving them. Here’s something to remember, however: you really have not “known them forever,” (since ninth grade, you said), and you probably made friends with them, just as you will make friends in college, one or two at a time. You do not have to face the whole college campus at once. First a roommate, then a couple of her friends, then someone you meet in class, someone you eat with at the cafeteria, somebody who works in the library, etc. Also, it’s simply not true that if you “screw this up,” your whole life will change. How so? You’ll undoubtedly start out friendly with one or two people whom you will later discover don’t have the same interests or values you do, so? You start seeing less and less of them, or drop them cold turkey. Or you’ll go a whole semester with people you are friendly with, but nobody you fee! l you can really confide in. So? You have email, a cell phone, you can still call your old friends wherever they are and talk. I would be very surprised if at the end of four years of college, you won’t feel you’re leaving some of the best friends you’ve ever had. Be a little optimistic here. The fact that you have close friends now means you are a person others confide in, a person who likes personal contact, which makes it very likely that you’ll meet the same kind of people in college.

Question: Dear ms. Naylor, i just did something stupid…

Question:
Dear ms. Naylor, i just did something stupid. My friend, lets say his name is ,Wade asked me to the Valentine’s dance at school. And he’s much more popular then me and every girl wants to go out with him. So anyways he asked me to the dance and i was so happy that he did but i wasnt sure what to say so i
yell out not in your life time. At first i was ok with my answer but then later that day i decided i wanted to go with him. But it turned out to be to late he ended up leavin school that day to see a basket ball game then to the dance. And now i want to tell him i will go out with him but i dont know how. Please help
me.

PHYLLIS Replied:
Since this won’t be posted until after Valentine’s Day, I’m afraid I can’t help much, but I sure sympathize. Why we girls say one thing and mean another, I don’t know, but it certainly gets us in trouble. If you had asked a guy to a dance and he called back, “Not in your life time,” I don’t think you would have the nerve to ask him again. I still remember when a guy asked me to a formal dance and I accepted, and made a red satin gown to wear. When he asked the color of my dress, I just assumed that my girlfriends had already told him, so I said jokingly, “purple.” He arrived at our door the evening of the dance, and my Mom said she still remembers the look on my face when I opened the box and found an expensive purple orchid. Naturally I thanked him and pinned it on my dress, but I sure felt like a dork.