Alice Blog

Coolest Moment

Question:

Today I had one of the coolest moments of my life – possibly even the coolest – and it was because of you! I’ve written to you many times before before, the most recent being about how my sister, Kimberly and I have been reading the Alice series since we were kids and even made an Alice fan club in elementary school. I read Now I’ll Tell You Everything on my kindle, but Kimberly decided to borrow the book from the library because it’s so thick and she’d rather read it on paper anyway. It’s been sitting on Kimberly’s bed for a while and I idly looked through it because I’d never seen the hard copy before. And then I saw the back cover and I couldn’t believe my eyes! MY e-mail had been chosen as one of the three fan letters on the cover!

I can’t express how much that means to me. I was trembling and tears were coming and it was very emotional! I feel incredibly privileged to have something so tangible that will link Alice and I, and I’m so so grateful! I saved all your e-mail replies in a special folder and I’m so glad and honoured that I was able to write an e-mail to you that meant enough for you (or your editor or publisher) to put it on the final Alice book. Thank you so much! Even after the Alice series is over, she and you still manage to impact my life!

Phyllis responds:

I’m glad it was so meaningful to you.  You’re talking about the hard cover book, “Now I’ll Tell You Everything.”   Now you have that book to remember, and I have your email to treasure.

Now I’ll Tell You Everything

Question:

I have been reading your books since I was about eleven. I first discovered your books at a book store in Tennessee while on vacation. I have read every book up to the end of Alice’s junior year, and all the books have come together; the three parts of the year. Today I was a local Barnes & Noble, and I found “And Now I’ll Tell You Everything”. I was absolutely ecstatic! my only concern is, I was wondering if that was the only book for her senior year? I don’t want to miss/skip a book. Thank you so much for your time and I hope to hear back soon. Can’t wait to start reading!

Phyllis responds:

Actually, that book isn’t about her senior year at all. The three books of her senior year are Alice in Charge,  Incredibly Alice and Alice on Board.  You can buy them as singles, or all together in one big paperback titled “You and Me and the Space in Between.”   “Now I’ll tell you Everything” is from her college years on.  Enjoy!

Can’t Bear to See them Go

Question:

Thank you, all I can say is thank you! I have read all the Alice books and only have 9 more pages on Now I Tell You Everything. Yes I could be finishing the book right now, but I’m sad. These books have been a big part of my life and I can’t bare to see them go, though to me Alice will never leave. It breaks my heart sometimes when I think that Alice isn’t a real person, but I realize that many of your memories are shared through Alice. After this, I will finally finish the Alice series and probably sob my eyes out. But I just want you to know that Alice is my role model, and a person I can always turn to whether it’s listening to her or using her experiences to guide me, she is always there. Please if you ever get the chance to read this, I just ask that you understand how much Alice has made a difference in my life. Thank you!

Phyllis responds:

It’s wonderful to hear how much the books have meant to you.  It’s meaningful to me to read reader’s letters and emails, and relive the books through things you tell me.  Thanks so much for your email.

Am Now a Mother Myself

Question:

I read the first Alice book when I was about 10, and thought it was hysterical. I didn’t read the rest of the series until my 20s, when I started revisiting books I had read as a child, then got hooked on Alice and her story.

In the time since reading the rest of Alice’s story, I lost my mother to cancer. I can’t tell you how much it helped to be going through the loss of my mom, and relating it to something that I had read in an Alice book. Alice’s realization that there are “substitute mothers” in the unlikeliest of place was something that was very helpful, and true, for me at a time when I needed it the most. I feel like she has been my friend through this crazy journey of losing my mom, and even now, I revisit some of the books if I need some comfort.

I also became a mom last year and am appreciating the books from a parenting perspective, as far as seeing what kind of parent I hope to become.

I hope you are enjoying your “retirement”, and I wanted to thank you so much.

Phyllis replied:

How wonderful to hear from you, and to think that you and Alice have experienced so much of the same things.  Thank you for taking the time from your busy life as a new mom to write to me.

What Would Alice Do?

Question:

I can’t thank you enough for how much your books have done for me. I’ve never connected to another character the way I have to Alice. I started reading Alice when I was twelve, the same age as her in the first book I read. I read every book following in the series and Alice and I have quite literally grown up together, as the last book came out when I was also in college and I’m 21 now.

I feel emotional even writing this email to you because I love your books so much and they’ve done so much for me. I’ve gone through some rough times in the past couple of years and Alice has been there with me for all of it. You’ve honestly given me one of my best friends. We’ve gone through similar experiences, felt the same emotions, and Alice has been a role model of sorts for me. She always kept a level head and was able to make rational decisions most of the time, even when it wasn’t popular. I’ve caught myself thinking “What Would Alice Do?” at times.

I can only hope I have a marriage and lifelong friendships like Alice did. It seems a little crazy that I’m speaking about her like she’s real, but she is real to me. I’ve reread Now I’ll Tell You Everything a few times but I’ve only finished it once, because I can’t imagine her story ending. It will always be ongoing to me.

Thank you for giving me a role model, companion, best friend, and the best series I could ever ask for.

Phyllis replied:

Your email made my day.  Alice was really one of my best friends too, and even now it’s hard to think of her as imaginary.

Felt Exactly Like Elizabeth

Question:

I read my first Alice book, Alice In-Between, in the sixth grade and remembered that I had not read anything like it before. I related to and connected so much to Alice even though we aren’t alike in many ways – except for the fact that she was a girl finding her way in the world.

It’s fun to remember the memories I had with the series; I received a poster years ago, I read all of the books from the series I could the summer after eighth grade, and only a year ago when the last book came out, I was able to meet you in the basement of a cute little bookstore in Ann Arbor, Michigan.

Your personality that day warmed my heart, and seeing you talk in person was like seeing my mentor that was there for me throughout my childhood. I vividly remember you talking about the last book and how Alice was losing her virginity, and a little girl in the audience said, “What’s that?”. I smiled because I feel like that’s something Alice would have asked Lester or her Dad at that age.

My parents never gave me “the talk”, and I’m sure my perceptions of sexuality would be skewed by the media and all sorts of unreliable sources. Actually, the other day I was using a tampon for the first time in years, and I felt exactly like Elizabeth the day she was at the pool. I couldn’t help but laugh. I’ve learned so much from you, Alice, and her friends and family.

I am in the middle of re-reading Now I’ll Tell You Everything as a freshman in college, and it’s weird to finally be the same “age” as Alice in the beginning of the book as a lost girl in a new school. I know that when I have a daughter OR son, I’ll be buying them the Alice books for their birthday. I can only hope they relate to, learn, and laugh as much as I did with Alice. Much of my love from reading started with Alice.

Thank you with all my heart.

Phyllis replied:

Your tampon story made me smile.  I still have Alice moments.  I was eating in a New York restaurant with my editor once, and we started up a grand staircase in the middle of the dining room to the balcony.  I was wearing clogs, and one of my feet slipped out and made me stumble and sit down.  Immediately, several men in the tables below jumped up to come to my rescue, and all I needed was my shoe.  “Another Alice moment,” I murmured, and that helped me get through it.  Thank you so much for taking time to write to me.  I enjoyed it so much.

DETAIL ORIENTED

Question:

Something I noticed in the books recently, in Incredibly Alice, Patrick says he sits down on the couch that Alice “was on when she was over”. But wasn’t that Max P, the dorm for the summer students? Didn’t Patrick move into the year-round student dorm when Fall came around? His roommate definitely changed.

I also wonder what Ben and Sylvia said when Alice and Patrick got married on the same day as they did, October 18th. Not that I think they made a big deal out of it, I just thought someone might mention it. Although given the weddings over the series, most of them seem to take place either around Thanksgiving or October. Is that really the best time to get married or just a coincidence that most people decided to marry at that time?

When I read about Patricia having one sip of beer and Patrick’s reaction to it, I felt a bit confused. I know drinking is heavily frowned upon in America when done by minors and the drinking age is higher than in Germany. But, well, my mother allowed me to have a tiny sip of beer if I asked for one when I was a kid – it wasn’t something forbidden, so when I turned 18 and was legally allowed to drink any alcohol, I saw no big thing about it. In fact, I learned that alcohol was pretty boring. I didn’t even start “drinking” until I turned 23 years old. I just never felt the urge to have any alcohol because I knew about it and realized it was not as great as people seemed to make it out.

A Fan Who Notices The Tiniest Of Things The More She Reads The Alice Books

Phyllis replied:

You certainly do notice the tiniest of things, and I have no idea who sat on what couch, nor do I remember wedding dates, birthdays, or Patricia’s first sip of beer.  I’m delighted that you pay so much attention to detail.  You might get a job as copy-editor at a publishing company.  I’ll bet they’d be glad to have you!

WISHED FOR A WHOLE BOOK ABOUT COLLEGE

Question:

I am 28 (almost). I started reading Alice when I was in 6th grade, and read the books fairly regularly up until I started high school, and I caught up to Alice in age. I enjoyed the books immensely, but over my high school and college years, I didn’t bother to keep up with Alice. Last year, I was browsing in Barnes and Noble, when I found the first Alice collection, “I Like Him, He Likes Her.” I still read some YA now and then, and the title intrigued me. I picked it up, realized it was Alice, and bought it immediately. Over the next year, I ordered and read each collection from Alice’s high school years. I waited patiently for “Now I Will Tell You Everything” to come out in paperback (like many book lovers, I must have all books from a series in the same format, and it somehow felt like cheating to read the final Alice book before I owned a copy). I finished the book last night.

I cried for an hour.

I’m crying now, a little, as I write this email. I can’t explain it to my baffled boyfriend, but I somehow feel that Alice would understand me.

Alice always felt like a real person to me. Though she was older than me the first time I read about her, and much younger the second time, though we had different experiences in the small scale, in a lot of ways, Alice is me. I hope my boyfriend (of 5 years, someone I knew and dated in high school) and I can work as well as Alice and Patrick.

As Alice caught up to and passed me in age & experience, I saw my potential life roll out in front of me. At 28, in some ways this is the first time I’ve really acknowledged that I will truly grow older, become old.

In some ways, it was disheartening. If each of Alice’s books & experiences were 200 pages, then her middle school years were 1000 pages long, her high school years over 2000 pages. The rest of her life took barely 500 pages. It was rewarding, satisfying, but for someone who identified with Alice, did this mean the bulk of MY life was over? I wished for a whole book about college, one about life after college & planning a wedding, one about married life & raising children.

I think maybe this is just the way time works. As a child and teenager, it passes slowly. It seems like you will never get out of your heartbreak & agony & then all of a sudden you are 25 going on 30 and where has the time gone?

In many ways, this email is just me trying to work through the visceral reaction I had to the end of the Alice series. Like the end of Harry Potter, the end of Alice is the end of my childhood. Only great things lie ahead of me, I hope, but sometimes I wish I were still 17, a little silly, with the world at my fingertips and all the possibilities open–bad and good. I wish I’d appreciated it more. I’ll try not to dwell on past or future, but focus on what I have now.

Ms Naylor, thank you for these books. I hope some day to pass them on to my friends’ children, possibly my own.

(P.S. You know people live in Oklahoma, right? We don’t really appreciate every mention of someone moving to OKC accompanies by an “Oklahoma? Really?” Even if that is accurate to real life. Oklahoma. It’s not as bad as you’d think.)

Phyllis replied:

Yes, indeed, I know folks live in Oklahoma and I have been to Oklahoma.  There’s a whole musical about your wonderful state!  I can empathize with you feeling that life is whizzing by, that we are ALL growing old, and that you wished I had written complete books about all the different  ages of Alice.  I just wanted to make sure I covered all the big bases in her life while I was still around.  Besides, there are so very many books yet I want to write, and it’s time to devote those six months of each year to other ideas.  But I very much appreciate your writing to me.  The end of childhood is in some aspects a bittersweet time.  Seems like we spend our first 20 years wanting to grow out of it.  Then we have to get serious, we have other people to take care of, big decisions to be made.  You are so smart to dwell on the present and enjoy what you have now.

Unresolved

Question:

I recently re-read majority of the Alice books and I realized there were some things that seemed to completely disappear off the radar in the final book, leaving questions for me.

Like, did Kay and James end up together or did they realize that, while they talk, they don’t have any feelings for each other and decide to go their separate ways, no matter what their families may say? Whatever happened to Pamela’s mother? Did she get her life back together? Although I still wonder at times why it took Alice so long to realize that she wanted nothing to do with Tony. I mean, if a guy had put his hand so close to my breast just for taking a picture like in Dangerously Alice, I would’ve given him a nice, hard slap across the face for touching me without my permission. But then, I knew my personal limits on what I allowed a guy to do much faster than Alice did.
And as nice it is to know that a good book can make you feel alongside the main character, at times I felt myself get incredibly frustrated with some of the characters. When Jill gets pregnant, I felt like telling her “Well whoop-de-freaking-doo” and yes, considering she was ready to be a mother for the rest of her life, I did expect her to have planned the rest of her life, including college…!
Although I think the biggest anger came in Now I’ll Tell You Everything, with Mrs Butler. While I do understand where she’s coming from, I do feel like I want to grab her and slap some sense into her. After all, “Just Saying No” and being abstinent doesn’t work. This may be a pessimistic view, but what if saying No doesn’t work because the other party slips you something to make you more… “cooperative”? And as Alice thought herself, what about the kids who had already experienced sex? I mean, I myself am still a virgin and I am a year older than Alice was when she married, but this isn’t an abstinence decision. More of a personal trauma thing.
What Mrs Butler needs to realize is that open communication is much better than just plain forbidding things. Children, and especially teens, are much more likely to do something if they’re just plain forbidden from doing it. If there’s open communication about it and it isn’t thrown into high heavens like the forbidden fruit, they’re more likely to be open about it towards their parents. My mother brought me up with the idea of “If you’re old enough to ask the question, you’re old enough for the answer” and even simplified, according to the age. And it worked fine with me.
Then again, I think I really lost it when Mrs Butler mentioned homosexuals kissing in the streets and with the help of God. That woman needs some damn toleration slapped into her head.

Phyllis replied:

Whew!  That’s a lot of slapping.  I’m a little more tolerant here.  It seems to me you do a lot of planning in advance, which is good, except when it doesn’t quite work.  I certainly didn’t always date guys who would have been future marriage-material.  I knew it at the time, but I liked the feel of being in love, liked the attention, liked practicing the kissing part, just liked getting introduced to different lifestyles.  But the only time I “went too far” was in my first marriage, when I thought mistakenly that perhaps if I got pregnant, it would help my paranoid-schizophrenic husband to make the choice of being a father and give up his Ph.D dreams which seemed to be driving him mad.  One of the worst mistakes I ever made in my life, and my miscarriage was one of the best things that happened to me.  All of that seems like another life now, with another husband, but looking back on it, I always thought of myself as so grown-up, serious, mature, and yet…looking back…I had SO much to learn.  All I’m saying is that it’s pretty easy to look at a situation and think, “Why on earth didn’t they….?”  I know.  I do it too.  But now to answer your questions:  Yes, I think Kay and James will make a go of their relationship.  (I had to stop and try to remember who they were).  Pamela’s mother is an on-again, off-again problem, and one of the reasons, I think, why Pamela didn’t marry until very late in the game.  Pamela getting pregnant?  As well brought up as I was, there were definitely times in my own dating I wished a guy would go further than he did.  I had sexual feelings too, you know.  I think your mom had a good philosophy about answering her children’s questions.  And I have a feeling that Mrs. Butler is in for some rude surprises from her children when they are old enough to rebel, as her daughter is surely doing.  But THANK YOU for reading the final Alice book so thoroughly.  I enjoy hearing from readers like you.

No religious reference?

Question:
 
Hello there,
My name is Hilary. Although i did not read all of the Alice Books I did however read the last book. I loved it but I think I would have loved it even better if the character Alice had a closer relationship to God. i was wondering why you did not feel the need to make that particular relationship stand out.
I am writing this email hoping that i will get some answers. I don’t even know if this is the right email address.
whether you who are reading this is Phyllis Reynolds Naylor or someone else i really hope that my question be answered.
Have a Great Day.
 
 
Phyllis replied:
 
Yes, it is Phyllis who is responding to your email.  Probably the reason Alice does not seem to have a closer,or more personal relationship to God is because I am still on me religious journey.  Having been raised in a devout religious family, my only complaint was that there were–are–just too many questions about religion and God that seem to have no intelligent answers, and, as a former nun once wrote in her book, “I’ve stopped making excuses for God.”  There are times Alice does refer to God, to prayer, but perhaps her religious crisis at the end of the book, “Intensely Alice,” sums it up for me.  Also, Alice represents girls of many cultures, many family relationships, many faiths, and I would not want to show Alice going to church or praying at meals without getting into the deeper expressions of her faith, and those in turn would lead to more questions, which would depend on what exact faith she belonged to, and I felt it was better to keep her on her journey than to become more involved in what is really a very, very personal matter.