are all couples always attracted to each other?

Hi! You are my most favorite writer of all time and I wanted to ask you this question because I think you are very wise and you were married for a long time so I just wanted to ask: Are married couples always physically & sexually attracted to each other or do they stop being attracted to each other when they get old? Like Alice and Patrick, I get that Patrick loves Alice with all his heart because if he didn’t I don’t think he would’ve stayed married to her right? but he was attracted to Helene and was tempted but does that mean he thought of Alice less attractive because she did say that she was feeling insecure about her body. Are Alice and Patrick still attracted to each other now in their 60’s? The reason I’m asking is because I’m getting married next month & I’m scared that as I get older he won’t be attracted to me anymore. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this! xoxo

Then are you ever worried that you won’t be attracted to him any longer, or does everything depend on you?  I guess the question that immediately comes to mind is what else does he find attractive about you besides your physical appearance?  Do you have interesting conversations?  Do you share any of the same hobbies?  Religion?  Can you see each other as parents of young children?  Do you each love the other as that person is now without an unspoken list in your mind of all the ways you hope each other will change?  Of COURSE you will observe that other people are attractive after you’re married.  Being married doesn’t mean you both go blind.  But just  because you walk by a bakery window and see five different kinds of layer cakes doesn’t mean you are going to go inside and eat them all.  The marriage comes first.  I can only tell you that in the last few years of my 52 year marriage to Rex after he developed  Alzeimer’s disease , I felt I loved him as a husband,  as a little boy, an elderly man,  a lover–I just loved every part of him.  Of course we had disagreements at times, and of course I saw and worked with other men who were attractive, just as he commented on other women.  Bu we put our marriage first and learned to love each other in different ways.  Have some confidence in yourself, and remember that when you love the whole person, you don’t just marry someone for her legs .  Or his biceps. Or the  fact that you both love the same song….