Your Questions Answered

Teenage Love Troubles

Teen Love Problems

Comment:

I know you are quite the woman of wisdom and so I really need your insight. I am currently sixteen and a half years old, I have a boyfriend, whom I’ve been with for about 8 months, but I have been crushing on him since the 5th grade. I became best friends with him about a year and half ago. And at this time, he was crazy about this girl, and she played with his feelings like a baby plays with a rattle. She had three boyfriends (not all at once) and kept them from him, but continued to lead him on. I was friends with her before this, but she lied to me and lost all of my trust. And at one point, something really awful happened and she hurt him too. I was there for him and she didn’t care how much she hurt him. And he knows that I strongly dislike her and that I really don’t trust her. He has talked to her in the past (while we have been dating) and he kept it from me for a while. His reasoning was because he knew how much I didn’t like her and that he thought it would upset me to talk about her. We’ve gotten in a few arguments over this. And the most recent one was the worst. He told me that he thinks of her everyday. That really hurt. He told me that he worded it wrong and that what he meant was that he didn’t like ending on bad terms with her and shutting her out of his life. Well, she doesn’t want to be his friend. She has pushed away all of her friends because all she wants is to be with her boyfriend. She actually quit her job to spend more time with him. He seemed to blame me for them ending on bad terms. I had texted her politely asked her not to talk to him because it upsets him and makes me feel insecure and uncomfortable because I know how much she meant to him and I sometimes feel like I can’t live up to those expectations. I just want him to be over her, even if he says he is, I just don’t know. I want to trust him on that but I feel so fragile. I found out that next semester, he will for sure have a class with her (I was told by one of my friends). And I want to mention something to him but I feel like he’ll get mad at me for bringing it up. What should I do? His says he understands, but I feel like he still just thinks of her and it makes me feel insignificant, which I have told him. Any advice on how to approach him on this sore subject?

 

Phyllis replied:

I doubt there are many people, male or female, who haven’t at some time suspected that the person they are with might like someone else better.  You’ve analyzed it correctly–that the thought that he is still thinking about her a lot makes you feel insecure and uncomfortable because you’re not sure you can measure up.  Do you really think that if he promised you he’d quit thinking about her, it would stop the thoughts from coming?  You really can’t ask or expect someone to quit liking another person just because you’re uncomfortable–that’s on you to deal with.  But I can tell you for sure that bringing up the subject again and again makes him think about her all the more.  Here are two things for you to think about:  Realize that there are obviously some things he likes about you or he wouldn’t be spending time with you at all.  And second, if you were not so dependent on his affection–if you could devote more time to other activities or people and talk about other things–you would be more attractive to him.  Dating for most teens is a roller-coaster affair, but the more confidence you can have in yourself, the less dependent you will be on this or any other boyfriend.

Email

Posted on: January 31, 2017

The witch saga

Comment:

I would just like to say, that I love the 6 books about Mrs. Tuggle. I have read them since I was very young, 13 I think. And am.now 31. I am from Denmark, and read them in Danish. They were my favorite books, and I have read them all so many times. I tried.to find them in Danish when I got older, but it was impossible to find them all. So I gave up. Until one day, a person answered an old request in a Facebook group and she had five of the books, just like I remember them from when I borrowed them at the school library when I was a teenager. I will keep them forever they are a reminder of when I was young and had a very magical imagination. Love them so much. They are such amazing book’s and You told the story so great. Thank you for writing them. They are my favorite books.

 

Phyllis replied:

You are a true fan, to have loved these books so long.  I really enjoyed writing them, although some of those chapters gave me goose bumps.  The girls in the house alone when all those cats and crows are clawing to get in….   The girls in the cellar, drawing a protective circle in chalk around them….  I can remember not wanting anyone to walk behind my chair while I was writing the books.  I knew I would rise up out of my chair if anyone had touched my shoulder.  Thanks so much for your email.

Email

Posted on: January 31, 2017

Witch Books

Comment:

I read your “Witch” books as a child, and they introduced me to the horror genre. I thank you for that.  I’m now 34 and I feel a strong urge to read them again. Unfortunately I live in Denmark and the books are nowhere to be found. Are there any chance at all, that this series will be available as E-books?

Phyllis replied:

I wish I could answer that, but I just don’t know.  All six of the witch books, however, are available from Amazon.  I just checked.  Witch’s Sister,  Witch Water, The Witch Herself, The Witch’s Eye, Witch Weed, and The Witch Returns.

 

Email

Posted on: January 24, 2017

Thank you for your Witch Books!

Comment:

I am writing to say that I’m a big fan of your witch book series. Some of my favorite children’s books are Witch’s Sister, Witch Water, and the Witch Herself. I especially enjoy reading them in October with the crisp fall air and Halloween coming up. I recently recommended your Witch series book to my 11 year old niece. She’s recently become interested in witchcraft and spells, and I’m sure she’ll love reading your books.

Phyllis replied:

Thank you for your email.  I’m delighted that you loved those books.  Did you know that they are really part of a six-book series?  The next three books–to be read in this order–are The Witch’s Eye, Witch Weed, and The Witch Returns.
Creepy to the very last!

Email

Posted on: January 24, 2017

Could I have two photos?

Comment:

Dear Phyllis Reynolds Naylor,

I´m a great fan and admirer from your books. I would therefore be very happy,
if you can sent me two handsigned autographed photos from you.
Can you personalize one of them? Thank you very much.
I would be very pleased if you could fulfill my wish.Many thanks in advance for your kindness. I wish you all the best for the future.

Phyllis replied:

I see that your address is Germany, and I’m happy to be sending you the signed photos.

Email

Posted on: January 24, 2017

Do you ever sign book plates?

Comment:

I’m 22 and I’ve been reading Alice since I was 12 years old. It’s my favourite series of all time, as I’m sure you’ve heard from many other girls like me. I was just wondering, do you ever have time to sign book plates if they are mailed to you? I found these beautiful book plates for my Alice collection and was hoping that maybe you would be able to sign one?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and I completely understand if you’re too busy! I just wanted to also take a chance to tell you thank you so much for writing these books, they mean so much to me!

Phyllis replied:

I’m happy to sign book plates or even plain labels that readers can put inside their books, rather than sending me the book plus a mailer.  To send book plates, please place them in an envelope, along with an envelope with your return address and postage, and mail it to me at 401 Russell Ave., Apt. 713, Gaithersburg, MD. 20877.  I’m delighted to know you’re a fan of the Alice collection.

Email

Posted on: January 2, 2017

What other books have you written?

 

I am visually impaired, so I can’t see the greatest. I will be going to the Department for the Blind after this year. I read braille and use a cane to help me get around. I enjoy helping people and babysitting little kids. I like to also do hands-on things. I can see good enough to ride a bike, and so I love doing that as well. I have a lot of fun ice-skating and rollerblading and skating as well. I play goal ball and I swim on the swim team. I have ran in track when I was younger. Also, I won a medal when I was little for the most beautiful baby. I got first place. I’ve been in the newspaper several times for different things. I’ve been in it for Pros, which is a youth group I’m in. I’ve been in the newspaper for school, also. I’ve had 3 surgeries as well; one when I was one and a half, and two when I was seven and a half. I have had a lovely life.

I like your Alice book series. I love mystery books. Do you have any other books that I might be interested in that you have written? I enjoy your wording and your characters in your books. Although, I have never read your Shiloh books. I am interested in your books and your mystery books. I like a lot of books.

You’re a talented author, and I like you. I like that you changed all the characters in all your stories. I like that you have different characters, and they had different meanings in your stories. I think that you’re an inspiring author, and I look up to you. I think that you should make a lot more books and have a lot more series, as well.

I think that you have obviously gone on a lot of trips by the sound of the Alice books. I enjoy reading them. I would like to read more about your adventures that you have gone or are going to. I would even like to hear about what you imagine, even if you don’t go to these places.

Phyllis replied:

I’m glad to hear that you’re enjoying my books.  I know that many of them are also in Braille.  Since I’ve now written 145 books, I think the best thing is for you to go to my website, www.phyllisnaylor.com, and see all the different books you  might like.  The Shiloh Quartet is about a dog, the Cat Pack books, beginning with the Grand Escape, are about two housecats, then there are the Bernie Magruder mystery books, and the boy/girl battle books–which I think you would enjoy, even though the characters are younger–The Boys Start the  War, and The Girls Get Even…on and on, to make an even dozen.  For single books, try Sang Spell, Jade Green, Blizzard’s Wake and Send No Blessings, and Cricket Man.   You obviously are involved in a lot of activities, and I’m delighted to know that reading is one of them.

 

Email

Posted on: December 23, 2016

to walk the sky path

Comment:

I am reading “sky path”: I am wondering how you came to possess such sympathy for the seminole experience: did you study this culture? Did you visit the everglades and experience firsthand? A very enjoyable read. Thank you!

Phyllis replied:

As I wrote that book some time ago, it’s hard to remember all that prompted it, but I remember reading that the Seminoles remained the unconquered American Indian tribe by retreating farther into the Everglades, and so we let them be, as we should have.  Yes, I did go to the Everglades and do some research, but mostly I was captivated by a long article in the National Geographic about modern  life in the Seminoles, and I had an expert read my manuscript and make a few corrections.  How true that book is to current conditions among the Seminoles, I really don’t know.

Email

Posted on: December 13, 2016

Crazy Love

Comment:

I am your fellow writer and long time fan. I recently dug up and re-read Crazy Love and wanted to let you know I found it as powerful and moving as I did the first time I read it many years ago. With more years under my own belt, I can appreciate even more the sensitivity and self-awareness you brought to that book. I especially appreciated the part where you wrote your in-laws detailed letters including your analysis of the origins of Ted’s problems, expecting to receive heartfelt apologies. Been there! Done that! Wow, it takes a lifetime to figure out how people actually behave, doesn’t it?

I also found it interesting how you suffered a certain PTSD after the experience, how honest you were in pointing out that just because you’d finally extricated yourself from the situation didn’t mean your own brain hadn’t been affected. I’m currently in a similar situation, and it’s reassuring to be reminded that eventually healing will occur.

The other book of yours that I will never forget may have been called A String of Chances? Where the baby dies of crib death, making the protagonist question everything she’s been told about religion? One of the most memorable of all the many young adult books I encountered as I was writing my own.

One thing that amazes me is how a book, within its pages, remains fresh to the reader as they experience it for the first time or again after the passage of time. You’ve been so prolific, Phyllis, I’m sure this must bring you great satisfaction.

I’m so glad you found a good husband and went on to have such a brilliant career after all you went through in your early marriage. Couldn’t have happened to a more deserving person!

Phyllis replied:

What a lovely letter, and thank you so much.  I’m terribly sorry to hear that you are going through a similar experience.  Some of those events send chills through me even now.  Yes, “A String of Chances” was just as you remembered.  I had read a newspaper article about a non-religious young couple who had made their home in a small mountain community, and lost their precious baby to crib death.  It affected me so that I felt I had to “live it” with them, and much of what I put in the book about the baby’s burial was the way it really happened.  And somehow that memorial service they held for it so offended a parent that he petitioned the school board to remove the book from the library. They refused, so he signed the book out and never returned it.  Of course, I sent them another copy.  Best of luck to you in your current situation.  My guess is that somehow you will find it useful in your writing, painful as that may be, but also rewarding in the emotional release.

Email

Posted on: December 1, 2016

question

Comment:

Have you been to Rome or York, England before? I’m doing a report on Shadows on the Wall and do you have any connections between yourself and the book?
Thanks!! 🙂

Phyllis replied:

Yes, I’ve been to both.  Absolutely loved York–the wall, Micklegate Bar, even a caravan of gypsies  (travelers) in the countryside, using the bushes to spread their wet laundry.  Both places were captivating.

 

Email

Posted on: November 14, 2016

 

Twitter Phyllis on Twitter Blog Alice's Blog Facebook Phyllis on Facebook