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Any Episodes from Life?

Question:

I was searching your Alice website looking for facts about you because i’m writing a speech about you for my summer speech class. Your Alice series has been an important part of my life since i was in 6th grade, so about eight years now. I hated reading until i found Alice, so i decided to write my Favorite Entertainer Speech on you. Anyway, I was reading about how many books are in the series. You wrote that the last would be called Always Alice, but it’s actually Now I’ll Tell You Everything. Why did the name change like that? All of your other books have Alice’s name in them. Also If you have some extra tid-bits of information that i could use in my speech, i would love it if you shared them with my fellow students and me. Anything would help, including how i read somewhere that you put actual events of your life into the books. Cool stuff like that is helpful as well as most anything. Thank you so much for your time. I understand if you only answer the question about the book name. Thank you again.

Phyllis replied:
    
The editor and I had settled on the title, “Always Alice,”–in fact, she had the cover already chosen–a young girl half-hiding her face with her fingers–but when she presented it to the marketing department, they said that the final book should have both a title and a cover with more pizazz. And I loved the title we chose–my editor and I worked and worked, sending titles back and forth to each other until we chose the final one. They were in Riverside Park in New York for the photo shoot of the cover, and I was in New York, in Riverside Park, spending a day with my brother at the same time, but neither of us knew the other was there until weeks later when I happened to mentioned being in the city! As for one of the Alice episodes that really happened to me, the “playing Tarzan” scene in “The Agony of Alice” was straight out of my own fourth grade life. Phyllis

From a Librarian

Question:
 
Dear Phyllis Reynolds Naylor,
 
Just as Alice wanted a special place, no interruptions, and all the time in the world to share her first intimate moments with someone she loved, so I waited to savor your final book in the Alice series, knowing that once I’d opened the cover I would want to read nonstop all the way through.

Alice books arrived on my desk fifteen years ago when I first started doing outreach for the library and I immediately liked this motherless girl who had the “uncool” teacher and who lived through embarrassing shopping moments with her brother. Alice was sometimes a reminder of the adolescent girl still inside me and other times of my nieces and whatever current dramas they were going through. It wasn’t until Now I’ll Tell You Everything that “Alice-world” really caught up with the grown-up me. With every chapter I found myself reaching for the Kleenex box more and more.

It makes sense that the earlier Alice books cover just a portion of each year. At twelve, school years take forever and it seems like an eternity until high school graduation. And college beyond? Phew! I’m glad you’ve used this last book to describe events in the decades that followed Alice’s high school graduation. Life can fly by! For me, it seems as though the years between forty and fifty were gone in a blink and now I’m fifty-seven. I’ve held my dad’s hand in hospital when we were shocked to learn he needed a by-pass and a valve replacement – all those worn car parts – and cried in disbelief when they told us he’d died from complications of the surgery. I was in Mom’s bedroom with the paramedics and handed them the POLST form – DNR – and watched as they unplugged the EKG machine and let her be in peace. You can bet I had a tissue in hand through the whole chapter about Alice and her father’s death!

Some other things I really liked about this book:

1) You set part of the book in Eugene, Oregon, and in California. Alice and her friends spent far too little time in Yosemite, but at least she got there. I’ve read so many books which feature summers in Maine, so hooray for adventures on the West Coast!

2) Every character has to meet challenges, sometimes with valor, sometimes clumsily. Choices and conversations seemed so real. Teen readers can learn that friends who share a lot can each build very different grown-up lives, move away, have kids or not, marry, divorce, and change careers. I was happy to see that Alice, her brother and friends all had lives that shaped up differently from one another yet they could still find connections to hold them together. The best of all possible worlds, where both old and new can have a place.

3) The gay gals and their Idaho bed & breakfast. Hah! That moving van joke – so true! Glad their connection to the gang was reestablished. Very timely with what’s going on in our country. Alice never mentions how lucky she is that her father and aunt & uncle could attend her & Patrick’s wedding, but that for a lot of couples who recently married in Washington or California, dear parents and grandparents didn’t live long enough to see that happy day.

Teachers tell me that some boys read the Alice stories to understand how girls think. Bravo! What a great way for adolescent boys to also learn about bras, periods, anatomy, and sex education.

Thanks so much for the Alice series. I know when I recommend them to middle schoolers, it’s likely they’ll have years of good reading ahead of them.

Phyllis replied:
 
Thank you so much for taking time from your own busy schedule to write to me.  It’s wonderful to hear how the Alice books are being received in schools and libraries, and I too have discovered boys who read them to get a better understanding of girls. 

About Sylvia

Question:

I am in love with your Alice books! I’m eleven so I have stopped reading the series momentarily so that nothing is too inappropriate for me (even though I really want to, I’m trying not to read the older books :)). I love how you cover the “troubles” that young girls have. From peer pressure, suicide, and gay/lesbian issues. Which, by the way, I think was really cool of you to write about. Normally, people won’t really write about lesbian couples for youngish girls. I also admire how you made Alice okay with that fact. I also love how they’re so fun to read. Every time I get one of the Alice books from the library I can’t wait to read them!

My best friend and I are in love with the Alice series! But we were wondering about Sylvia. She teaches English, visited England, eats with her fork in her left hand, but does she have an English accent or is her ethnicity English? Thank you so much for writing a book that is so relatable and includes such relatable characters!
 
   
Phyllis replied:
 
I’d forgotten that she ate with her fork in her left hand!  No, Sylvia was born in the U.S.  but she loves England and English literature.

Who’s Counting?

Question:
 
I’ve been curious about this ever since I read “Now I’ll  Tell You Everything.”  How often did Alice and Patrick make love?
 
Phyllis replied:
 
Let’s see:  In “Now I’ll Tell You Everything, they’ve been married almost forty years.  Who’s counting?

Passion, Tenderness, and Joy

Question:

I am a huge Alice fan and I have been so for the past 10 years. I just read Now I’ll Tell You Everything, and I was struck by the mention of the three components of love: passion, tenderness, joy. I have been in a relationship for the past three and a half years, but it feels stagnant quite a bit. To be frank, I am much more academically smart than he is and we have radically different interests. I like books and world issues, but when I bring these up to him he doesn’t seem interested. He focuses on smaller things in life, like TV shows and video games he enjoys. I have passion, I have tenderness, but I don’t have the kind of joy I have always wanted for myself. I would love your advice.

Phyllis replied:
 
Your situation could have described my first marriage, although our differences weren’t the same as yours. Three and a half years, I believe, are long enough to give you a look at the future, were you to stay together.
I am less bothered by the difference in intelligence as by his seeming indifference or even curiosity about subjects that are important to you.  One of my best friends was a man who never went to college, but who could discuss almost any topic, simply because he was curious about the world.  Do you really want to settle for a life without the kind of joy you might feel with someone who shares the big things with you, and for whom the little differences don’t matter? Imagine your life together five years from now. I rather doubt you would be joyfully planning your future with him. It’s unfair for you to try to make this man into something he’s not, or vice versa.  When I married for the second time, “passion, tenderness, and joy” was part of our ceremony.  Be good to yourself.  Phyllis

Where Should I Begin?

Question:

I started the Alice books at ‘I Like Him, He Likes Her’ because I thought the other Alice ones like ‘Alice in Agony’ were for younger kids. Should I start with the very first ones or am I fine starting where I did? I’m almost done with ‘I Like Him, He Likes Her’ and I was just wondering..
 
Phyllis replied:

I don’t know how old you are, but many Alice fans enjoy Lester so much that they like to go back to the very beginning, when Alice was in third grade and Lester was fifteen (“Starting with Alice”) Others skip those prequels and begin with “The Agony of Alice,” when she is entering sixth grade. It’s up to you. I think you would get a better idea of how their personalities developed, how she became friends with Liz and Pam, if you read the earlier books, but the world won’t end if you go directly to “Please Don’t be True.”  Phyllis

Will My Inexperience be a Problem?

Question:

Well, my boyfriend and I started going out a few weeks ago and he really wants to kiss me, like naturally.
I do to but the thing is I barely have any experience in kissing and I am nervous.
I really do want to kiss him but the thing is, I have barely any experience. I wonder if that’s a problem? How do I make the first move?
Thanks Phyllis, I’m a big fan and I am starting to read Alice On Board, your amazing.

Phyllis replied:

How are you going to get any experience if you don’t try? If this is a boy you want to kiss, and it sounds as though you do, remember that kisses don’t start with just lunging at each other. You may be sitting or walking close together, gently teasing or saying nice things to each other, and all it usually takes is for the girl to lay her head on his shoulder and turn her face up toward him, and the guy will make the next move. If it’s any help, my first dozen or so kisses with a guy were pretty awkward. It took a while before we each resisted the impulse to kiss and run.

Reading the Sexy Parts Out Loud

Question:
 
I am another huge, longtime fan of Alice -and you! I’ve read several of your books over the years (Shiloh is one of my all time favorites!) but the Alice books resonated with me in a special way. My friends and I used to get the books from the library and read parts of them out loud to each other -all the stuff we had questions about, but were too afraid to ask! Thank you for helping us through that!
What I’d really like to thank you for, however, is how you wrote about Denise Whitlock several years ago. I was too young to value it then, but I have special appreciation for it now. Currently, I work in suicide prevention. Unfortunately, suicide/depression etc. still aren’t really talked about as much as they should be. Most people are afraid to bring it up and have conversations with their children or friends, but you were not. Thank you for bringing to light such a serious issue, and handling it with so much sensitivity and understanding. I hope that other readers in the future will read this and know it’s okay to talk and reach out for help -I’m sure many people already have.
Thank you for all that you do!
 
Phyllis replied:
 
You brought up two important topics–both concerning talking freely about certain subjects.  It took me a long time as a young girl to realize that whatever I was concerned about regarding bodies and sex, a zillion other girls were concerned or interested in also.  And for the life of me, I can’t understand why depression or other emotional/mental issues have to be so secretive.  We go to doctors for all sorts of ailments, some of them on very private parts of the body, so why should it be so difficult to tell a counselor or nurse or doctor, “I’m feeling really anxious and can’t put my finger on why,” or “I’ve been depressed for weeks now, and nothing seems to pull me out of it.”  But of course, there need to be willing adults and professionals available, and for many young people, those are hard to find.

View from Indonesia

Question:
 
Hi Phyllis! I am Alice huge fan from Indonesia and i just want you to know that how your books inspired me a lot and all of the series are my all time favorite books!! I feel like i’m growing up with her. I’m 19 now and i read Alice since i was 12 (and i still reread it) and since then i fell in love with Lester!! It’s so sad that Now I’ll Tell You Everything is the last book of all the series. Thank you so much for writing these books!! Thank you!!!
 
Phyllis replied:
 
I think we all fell in love with Lester.  I’m not even sure where I got the name.  I think he was a boyfriend of my sister’s.  I used to accuse him of being conceited, because he always had a smart reply to everything.  He sure did love to argue ,and I secretly liked the attention.

View from Germany

Question:

The first Alice book I read was Alice in Rapture, Sort Of when I was in the hospital at age 11. When I learned there were more books, both before Rapture and afterwards, I knew I wanted to read them. I bought a huge chunk of them when I visited my grandmother in America a few years later.I have to say, the older Alice got, the more I liked her.

I especially enjoy the books from Simply Alice, if not from Alice On Her Way onwards, mostly because she still reacted intensely to things, but otherwise didn’t act like something was a giant catastrophe as she did previously. It’s one small problem for me, I can’t read the older books and enjoy them as much as previously, because Alice seems to think that every tiny thing is the end of the world or a much bigger deal than it is.

But Now I’ll Tell You Everything just topped it for me. She was mature, still a bit quirky and it was nice to see how she continued to change over the years. The debacle of Abstinence-Only Sex Ed VS the regular Sex Ed is a part that always gets my blood boiling, while the last chapter Viva La Alice got me shedding tears. Of course, at some points in the books, I wanted to grab Alice and shake her – particularly when she dates Tony, who is a complete jerk and needs a proper woman to reign him in properly, or when she tries to be friends with Jill and Karen. Why she would even bother with them is beyond me…

But then, there will always be parts in Alice books that I just don’t understand. I live in Germany and was raised here, so I don’t understand this big deal of dances at schools or why she needs to buy a dress every year, if the previous ones fit just fine. But it was enjoyable to read about her and her family and friends, although at times I still wonder what happened to a few minor characters that seemed to disappear completely off screen as the books progress. But the main focus remained on Alice, her family and children, and that was the most important thing.

Phyllis replied:

It’s always interesting to read different points of view.  I think some girls would agree with you, that if they really loved a dress, why not wear it again to other dances?  I can empathize with Alice, though.  Girls bodies to tend to change a little at that age.  The breasts may become fuller, the hips wider, so I’m not sure the same dresses would fit from year to year.  The dances Alice and her friends were really excited about were the few formal or semi-formal dances at her school. And those are a big deal, as they were when I was growing up.  I wanted a different dress for each one too, and got them by sewing them myself.  (Thank you, Mrs. Boonstra, for teaching me to sew in 8th grade).  But I loved all your comments, and very much appreciate your writing to me.