Cheating/Infidelity advice

Hello, I’ve read almost all of your books and I must say you are very wise! I noticed in the Alice books you talk about the possibility of infidelity and cheating and I was wondering if I’m ever cheated on or my husband has an affair what should I do? what would you do? I was always told once a cheater always a cheater do you think that’s true?

I don’t like to classify people who make mistakes as “always” anything.  I wanted to show in that episode that even the most faithful of couples will find other people attractive from time to time.  As I said before, we don’t go blind after we’re married.  There were always a few men in our group of friends that I thought attractive and especially interesting.  But I wouldn’t have hurt my husband for the world by carrying it any further than sitting down by this man at a party and talking a bit.  At the same time, I would include my husband if he wandered by and invite him into the conversation too.  When couples marry, they need to remember that they are not pledging their loyalty just to their spouse but to the marriage.  If my husband were to confess to me that he was very much attracted to someone else, I think I’d handle it as Alice did.   I would also present a situation where I might be attracted to another man, so that my husband would have to imagine his feelings if the situation were reversed.