Didn’t Give a Reason Why

Question:

Please help my boyfriend broke up with me and didn’t give me a reason why. He won’t answer my calls, texts, or emails and when I tried going over to talk to him his mom told me he don’t want to see me. We recently went on a trip for my bday with his mom and when we got back he wasn’t the same and then broke up with me 3 days after tellin my family he was going to marry me in december when he was done with college. He won’t even talk to my mom and I talked to one of his friends and was told his mom don’t like me or want us together but she don’t even know me I only met her 4 times out of the 2 1/2 years me and him dated. Im really confused and don’t know what to do please help.

Phyllis replied:

I don’t know why he broke up with you either.  I don’t know what happened, if anything, the day you went out with him and his mom.  What I do know is that it doesn’t help, and probably makes things worse, for you to keep calling and texting and trying to see him.  Perhaps he felt he ought to do something for your birthday, but as soon as it was over, he grew distant, knowing that the break-up was coming.  It’s very sad, that’s certain, and especially when you don’t really know why.  It does sound to me like this relationship is definitely over, but perhaps if you keep your distance and don’t try contacting him in any way, you’ll eventually find out, possibly even from him, what it was all about.  I’m really sorry.