Do All Guys Get Turned On So Easily?

Question:

I’m just writing because I wanted to say something to the NEVER BEEN KISSED girl that wrote about “Macy” and “Kevin.”

I just wanted to say that you really shouldn’t feel bad because you’ve never had a boyfriend. Because neither have I. I’m 17 almost 18 and I have never had a boyfriend and I have never kissed a boy. I used to feel like a dork probably the most around the ages of 14 and 15. At one point I really just wanted a boyfriend so I could kiss him and have it over with. Now I know that you really don’t want to do that…I want my first kiss to be with someone special. Someone that I’ve known longer than just a couple of days…Even weeks for that matter. It’s sad that it took me so long to realize that friends that laugh at you or make fun of you because you haven’t done something really aren’t your friends. In fact now I only have 5 people that I can call friends. But I’m okay with that because they are the best friends ever and would do anything for me. Also you shouldn’t make yourself feel bad because you don’t have a boyfriend. lol. I guess it’s easy for me to say since I’ve kind of got that, ” Of course I’d like to have a boyfriend but I don’t need one to be happy,” attitude. Well anyway I hope this will help at least one person that reads this. ( probably not lol) What Do you think P. N. ??? I think my only problem is that now the guys that I would be going out with are older… I’ve never really thought about it but now it seems guys aren’t content with kissing then holding hands or sitting with their arm around you. Now they want to touch and cuddle… This guy that I haven’t kissed was sitting with his arm around me and then tried to not kiss me but touch me. I was like uuum no. So instead he leaned over me and then kissed me on the forehead. I could tell that he was really sweaty. Do all guys get turned on so easily? I’ve heard that guys that age only want one thing…I really hope that isn’t true but I’m starting to think maybe it is.

Phyllis replied:

Please, let’s not label all boys alike, a certain age or not. It’s true that when hormones click in, boys get turned on very easily. And though many of them want a girlfriend for show, as a badge of their attractiveness, just like girls want a boyfriend to brag about, most guys also want someone with whom they are comfortable, who can talk about things they are interested in, who finds them funny or attractive or smart or creative, and who takes care to make herself attractive but doesn’t spend all evening thinking about it. But yes, I think you are right that to just want to be able to say you’ve been kissed is a pretty shallow wish, and one that, once you get it, may not be that special at all. Why set yourself up for disappointment? But then, maybe for girls who can think of nothing else, getting a kiss, any kiss, will let them put their minds on something else.

Posted on: August 11, 2009