Have Only Been Kissed Twice

Question:

Hi PN. I am a big fan of ur books. I have a question for you today. I am 15 and have only had 2 boyfriends. I’ve only been kissed twice, and I never get asked out. I cryall the time because all my friends have boyfriends and im just a loner. the one guyt hat liked me and i liked him lived a few hours away and when i called him he said he didn’t like me and hung up. now im more sepressed then ever.what if i grow up to be 50 and have never even been felt up? Please help! I am dieng. thanks

Phyllis replied:

Arrrggghhhh!   I wish you would quit crying all the time, because that doesn’t make you look attractive; it makes you look desperate.  Do you have any idea how many girls write to me that they are 17 and have never been kissed at all?  And how many of them write to say they found a great boyfriend at college?  If you are worrying about reaching the age of 50 without being felt up, you’re worrying about the wrong things.   It’s not getting “felt up” that’s the big deal–it’s all the love and fun and shared experiences that goes with it.  Please spend your time getting to know yourself–the things that interest you, the things you want to accomplish, the things you do best, and concentrate on making yourself a more interesting human being.   That’s the best thing you can do to make yourself attractive to anyone–male and female alike.