I Like Them Both

Question:

Hey PN i need help. i have a bf that i really like but he lives an hour away && i hardly get 2 see him. we have been dating 4 almost 4 months but early 2day i was texting this guy i used 2 like.so while i was talking 2 him i realized that i still like him. but he told me he likes this other girl who is a freshman (we r sophomores). i still like my bf 2 but now i realized that i like them both. please help

Phyllis replied:

Help you do what? So you like both guys. That’s what being a teen and going out with guys is all about–helping you sort out little differences–what appeals, what doesn’t, how you like to be treated, how you don’t, how you show concern for the person you’re with, how you deal with disagreements….all these things are practice for eventually, perhaps, settling down with one particular person. If you feel attracted to more than one guy, be honest with your boyfriend and tell him you want to play the field, and of course he gets permission to do the same. It’s possible to like and even to love more than one person at a time. But growing up eventually means being willing to commit to one person, or deciding that you want to live your life a different way and being honest about it. Trying to stay loyal to a boyfriend you seldom see is probably not a good idea, and something the two of you need to talk over.

Posted on: August 31, 2009