I Really Don’t Want to be Around Him

Question:

Phyllis #1 I just want to say I love Alice and can’t wait until the next one comes out

#2 i need help with this guy. we r good friends but he is friends with a lot of girls. one day he asked me out and i said im not sure and the next day i said no(nicely) and that i didn’t like him in that way. and i said r u upset and he said no. then the next day he posts on facebook that he hates his life and i asked because i said no and he said yes. i told him to take his time to cool down. but he texts me everyday and asks how i am doing and always asks if i like anybody or if i hate him and i say none of your business and i don’t hate him. and hes just starting to freak me out and he wants to know why i don’t want to go out with him and i say becuase i dont like him in that way. and i really just don’t want to be around him anymore so how do i tell him that?? i dont want him to go suicidal or anything! help plz!!!!

Phyllis replied:

This is difficult, because some people just can’t accept a “no,” and you’re trying not to hurt his feelings. I suggest letting a day or two or more go by before you answer any messages from him. I would ignore all the questions he asks about whether or not you like him, and stick to school subjects, movies, anything that’s general. The fact that you are replying at all tells him you don’t hate him, but your answering, “I’ve been studying hard for that test” in answer to his “Do you like anyone else?” might turn him off after awhile.

Posted on: October 10, 2009