I Really Want to Hug Him but I’m Too Afraid

Question:

Ok so I’m 12 and I have been going out with this guy named Cody for about a month but I really think I love him.All I think about is him.And it ruins my day if I dont talk to him.I am sure I love him.But he has come to my house 2 times because he is my brother’s friend.We are GREAT for eachother.I can be myself around him!He is everything I ever wanted!But I talk to him on Facebook alot but sometimes I want to call him.But I’m really afraid to ask for him .And I dont know what to talk about with him!Also I drive myself crazy because I go into like this emotional turmoil of I dont talk to him for a day because I love him so much.I dont think he likes me as much as i like him because I really wanna hug him but I’m too afraid.Can you please help me?

Phyllis replied:

Please don’t hug him.  He comes to your house because he’s your brother’s friend, and you don’t think he likes you as much as you like him, right?  This doesn’t mean he might not change his mind after you grow up a little, but I don’t think a hug will help.  It’s hard to have a crush on somebody and want to be with that person all the time.  But you are twelve, you don’t know what to talk about with him, you tell me, and if you give yourself a little time just to enjoy him as a friend, these things will come easier, and he might see you a little differently.