In Case We End Up Together?

Question:

I love your books. and i love your advice. A few weeks ago some kid in my grade had sexually harassed me. it was reported and took care of and everything but i might be going on a four day trip with the school and i am scared that he might also get accepted. I didn’t think about it until after i handed in my essay and everything. Is there any advise you can give me incase we end up going on the trip together? love your books. and i love your advice. A few weeks ago some kid in my grade had sexually harassed me. it was reported and took care of and everything but i might be going on a four day trip with the school and i am scared that he might also get accepted. I didn’t think about it until after i handed in my essay and everything. Is there any advise you can give me incase we end up going on the trip together?

Phyllis replied:

I don’t know the situation, but if the incident was reported and “taken care of,” I assume that this person was lectured? punished? etc. and is probably not going to repeat the offense?  If you have reason to believe he will attempt something else, you need to talk with your teachers about this.  But if, as I think you mean, it might simply be an uncomfortable situation–no real danger–I would assume a completely neutral attitude with this boy.  I would not pointedly ignore him so that it is obvious to everyone else, and either embarrasses or angers him, but I would give him very little attention and get into conversations with others when he is around.  And I would certainly stay with the group throughout the trip.