Just a Druggie

Question:

I love Alice, and i think you are wonderful for giving advice, but i have some problems that are occuring. Most important, I am the bad person. The one you here in all the books. I do Marjuana, and smoke ciggarette butts of the street. I am a slut. I haven’t had sex yet, but i am a 13 year old girl and have already given and recicived a hand job. I broke up with my boyfriend for a 16 year old that lived an hour away. I have been in love with 21 year olds. I get drunk often. I lie to my parents all the time, though they really dont care about me. They are divorced and when my dad found a ciggerate filter in the landrey i blamed it on his girlfriend. I need an outsiders help so badly right now and you are the first person i could think of.

1.) How do i stop the pot, alcahol, and ciggerates because i am pretty much addicted?

2.) How do i earn respect back from the people who say i’m a slut?

I had strait A’s last year. I am in gifted and Talented. I was in advanced writing. I love to write. I have had stories and poems published. Then i got into bad stuff and i currently have F’s, D’s, and an occasion A on a good day.

Please help. I want to be succseful, but right now I’m just a druggie.

Phyllis replied:

If what you told me is actually true, I think that far more important than your being a druggie or slut or lier or drinker is that you seem extremely unhappy to me, and that’s what’s behind it all. You say that your parents don’t seem to care about you but, true or not, you don’t seem to care much for yourself. At the same time, you do have insight into how far your grades have dropped, how much your behavior has changed, and yes, you do need outside help, far more than I can give. The way you change is to take the next step: find an adult whom you can talk to, an adult in a position to connect you with the right people who can help. And while you are working on getting back to a self you can respect, be honest with the people around you. To kids at school who look at you as a slut, don’t excuse yourself and don’t ask for their pity. Simply say, when you catch rumors whispered about you, “I’m not proud of the way I’ve been, but I’m working on changing, and I hope you’ll respect that.” I respect you for your honesty in writing to me.

Posted on: November 13, 2009