Only Let Down my Guard 3 Times

Question:

i am a person that like to do things for themselfs i hate being told wat to do in other words i am an independant person and hates wen ppl do things for me cuz they underestimate me i have only let my guard down 3 times all in this past summer and they were all for guys one doesnt like me one is now my ex and the other one likes me but doesnt now i like him i have tryed to show him but he must b blind i have taken up my guard on 2 the one that likes me and the one that we r just friends but i cannt get my guard back up on my ex and we broak up 8 months ago do u have any sugestions

p.s.i thank u soo much for the books and for being a great writer

p.s.s. sorry that i have really bad spelling

Phyllis replied:

Nevermind the spelling, I’m trying to read between the lines to see what it is you’re really trying to tell me. It seems as though you’re a person who keeps people at a distance; you want to do things your own way, without someone telling you what to do. You may be happiest when you are grown by having your own business or working at a job where you work alone. But you also realize you need people, and where people are involved, you are cautious. You talk about “letting your guard down,” as though this is a failing, and I’m guessing you’re referring to sex or sex play. And you find that you can’t get over feelings for your ex, even though you try. Am I reading this right? I think it might help if you concentrate awhile on letting your guard down for friendship’s sake with both guys and girls. I think if you felt more comfortable around people in general, if you could carry on easy conversations and joke about yourself–if you could do little favors for others and accept little favors from them–all in a nonsexual way, it would make you more self confident, and you’d know better how to deal with your attraction for boys and to handle their attraction to you.

Posted on: October 16, 2009