Question: Im SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO confused! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Question:
Before i start anything i just want to say you are an AMAZING writer. You inspire me to write my very best. Now my question is about boys. Ok my ex and i broke up in late october but we still remain very close friends. Now he has a cousin that im also pretty close with. I think about my ex non stop! I know im not over him but at times i think about his OLDER cousin. I havnt kissed a boy yet because my ex was too shy to but his cousin has admited if we went out he would kiss me but i know i do not like him in that way. My ex is sweet and funny (and pretty darn cute) but when i think im over him, i just fall under his spell again! I would love to go out with him again but i would also love to have my first kiss. Im SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO confused! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

PHYLLIS Replied:
You are so excited about this, I’m afraid it may be a disappointment.  If the older cousin really wants to kiss you, why doesn’t he just do it?  Why do you have to “go out” first?  I think that right now you’re in love with the idea of being in love.  Kisses usually just happen–they don’t have to be planned.