Tips on writing relationships?

Comment:

I just wanted to say that, after reading your Alice books, I have never read an author who can write any kind of relationship (not just romantic) as well as you can. I love Alice and Patrick together (they’re my favorite couple in literature!) and that’s because their relationship was written so meaningfully, beautifully, and realistically. As for the ones that didn’t work out for Alice and her friends, it’s clear as to why (Brian being a jerk, for example, or Sam being too clingy). So in my own writing, do you have any tips for how to make my human connections more believable? How can I write a relationship as amazing as Alice and Patrick’s? Thanks so much, and I want to commend you again on being my favorite author.

Phyllis replied:

The best way I know is to observe and listen–the many ways people express themselves, the tones of their voices, their expressions.  Put yourself into each character you are writing about to see things from their point of view. Best of luck to you in your own writing!