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Question: I have to ask you for some advice…

Question:
Hello, I just want to start off saying that Im a really big fan and I love your books. I know you may get tired of this but I have to ask you for some advice. Im 13 and I am not doing well in school and i am having family issues. I feel so overwelmed. I cant talk to anyone because they laugh at me and make a joke about it! I cant take the stress of school and I cant take a relitive being in the hospital and alot of other things! I never get sleep. Im soo depressed. I dont know what to do! I feel like my parents are ashamed of me, like they want nothing to do with me. I have thoughts about suicide sometimes or I wish I were dead and I really think i would be better off dead. Please help me! I cant take it anymore i just cant! Please.

PHYLLIS Replied:
If you think you are causing your parents grief right now, this is nothing compared to how they would feel if you took your life. I truly wish I could say something that would make all your stress go away, but all I really have are questions: WHY aren’t you sleeping? WHY should your parents be ashamed of you? WHY don’t people take you seriously? I don’t know if you are actually a pretty good student, under a lot of pressure from your parents to do better, or if the pressure is coming from you, thinking you can’t possibly measure up. Worry about a sick relative is definitely stressful, but I’m wondering if it’s affecting you even more than other members of your family, and why that would be? The only thing that is clear to me is that you need to unload some of this worry and stress on someone who will really listen and help you understand the situation better. If you were the parent in this situation wh! ere you live now, and your child came to you with what you have told me, whom would you recommend she/he talk to? Your school counselor? The principal? A favorite teacher? A favorite aunt? A kind neighbor? A minister or rabbi or priest? Who is there in your immediate neighborhood whom you could confide in? Please do yourself a favor, and talk to someone this next week.

Posted on: February 6, 2009

Question: do you think because someone suffers from a mental disorder that person should not date?

Question:
i have a question for you. do you think because someone suffers from a mental disorder that person should not date? i think it is unfair to say that they shouldn’t because having support is the fastest way to recovery. im just asking cause when i was at a psyc hospital and one of the staff members told us that we shouldn’t date. i was in there 4 times last year for boarderline personality disorder fyi. but i am fairly recovered now, i dont hurt myself i take my meds im happy again, i have three groups a week and two individual sessions and i feel like i should be able to date but people are telling me no because i was “mentaly unstable” last year. what do you think?

PHYLLIS Replied:
Even if I were a psychiatrist, I would not be able to answer your question without knowing much more about you and your history. Are you getting this opinion from just one staff member or members of your therapy group, or is this coming from your doctor? It’s possible they feel you are too vulnerable still, that someone might take advantage of you, or that you might take advantage of someone else. It sounds to me as though you are improving, and I certainly hope it continues. I also understand your desire to date and be close to someone. Until you get more definite advice from your therapist or doctor, I’d suggest that you concentrate on improving your relationship with friends and group members. Feeling close and sympathetic to other people is good practice for feeling close and loving on a date. Learning to take rejection, criticism, advice, etc. is also good practice for dating, because things don’t always go so well on a date. Sometimes we put so much emphasis on having a boyfriend or girlfriend that when it really does happen, the reality is a lot less than the fantasy. Learn to be a “best friend” to someone first, and then perhaps dating will be the next step.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: can you also happen to tell me the name of the next alice book and when it will be out?

Question:
AAAHHHHH!!!, IM SENDING AN E-MAIL TO PHYLLIS REYNOLDS NAYLOR! Oh my god, I love your books!,And I’m DEFINTLY a HUGE fan , so are my two best friends. My favourit books are : Alice on her way;The grooming of Alice;Alice alone, and tons more! I think that you shouldn’t stop writing alice books because, they teach you the meaning of life, that,this is what you will probably go through every day or so. I appreciate you taking your time reading my mail. PS:can you also happen to tell me the name of the next alice book and when it will be out

PHYLLIS Replied:
INTENSELY ALICE will be out in June.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: which was your favourite book?

Question:
I REALLY like your Alice books. Well…I’m definitly a fan, so are my best friends. We enjoy every minute of reading your Alice books at the library. It is very indeed hard to think that they’re fiction books. The real story is that when it comes to higher books like: Dangerously Alice, or Alice in the know, I borrow them from my friend. Sometimes she gets annoyed, but I just cant resist reading them.My 2 favourit books would be Patiently Alice and Almost Alice. I like reading each word slowly, and sometimes I immitate what either Lester or Alice say.

One question… Actually MANY questions! Not to bother you or anything, but wich was your favourit book… the favourit one you wrote. And secondly, are we allowed to ask other questions that have nothing to do with Alice books? Questions about life? And thirdly, I want to thank you for writing Alice books. It makes me feel like you understand a true girl’s feelings. Not a lot of peopls are like that…

PHYLLIS Replied:
It’s hard for me to say which of the Alice books is my favorite, because they all run together in my mind. I’m writing about a girl’s whole life, so each book runs into the next. As for questions, this website is for anything you want to say, anything you want to ask. Just remember that I’m not a doctor or a psychologist, just an enlightened grandmother who is glad to listen to whatever is on your mind.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: Where are you!! I can’t find the site anywhere…

Question:
PN, Where are you!! I can’t find the site anywhere with the makeover of simonsays.com. Help! I go on the site everyday for advice and now it’s not there! Let me know!

PHYLLIS Replied:
Go to www.alicemckinley.com

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: I’m starting to question if there is a god so what should i do?

Question:
i got a big problem i was raised a a southerin christian but Ive been thinkin and readin all theses books and now im starting to question if there is a god so what should i do.

PHYLLIS Replied:
Many, many of the world’s most notable Christians have faced the same doubts and questions that you have. Many have been able to make that “leap of faith” that believes in spite of absence of scientific proof, and others continue to think and question all their lives. You can still be a good Christian by wanting to live as Jesus lived, yet trying to make sense of various teachings in the Bible and asking questions. There’s a Bible verse that says, “Thou shalt love thy God with all thy heart and soul and mind and strength.” When you use your mind to the highest degree, you will quite natually wonder about such things as why terrible things sometimes happen to the nicest people, and why innocent children should suffer. Why a loving God would allow this. You can’t help but wonder about other religions that also preach love and acceptance, people of other faiths who have done great wo! rk in the world. Continue to live the very best life you can and don’t feel guilty about the questions you have. When you get to college, you may want to take some courses in world religions and see if this helps clarify your thinking. Remember that many religions teach the same thing, and “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” is fairly universal. Remember too that there are people who do not believe in God who still give all they have to make the world a better place. You will definitely want to read “Intensely Alice” when it comes out in June.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: I love your series about the Hattfords and Maloys. What is the series actually called?

Question:
Dear Phyllis, I love your series about the Hattfords and Maloys. What is the series actually called? Have you ever thought about turning the books into movies? I would love to watch movies based on the series. Let me know if they do get turned into movies, okay?

PHYLLIS Replied:
It’s strange, because we’ve never formally named those twelve books. The editor and I call them the “boys/verus/girls” books, or “boys against girls” series, or “boy/girl” books. The first two books are titled, “The Boys Start the War,” and “The Girls Get Even.” The very last book is called, “Who Won the War?” I too think they would make a fun series for TV, but so far we haven’t had any offers.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: when I’m ready to tell him i like him how should i tell him?

Question:
wow your website has changed alot. I have a guy friend I’m sarting to kind of like and when I’m ready to tell him i like him how should i tell him? thanks for making such grate books

PHYLLIS Replied:
Please don’t “tell” him, “show” him. Just by being attentive, warm, interested in what he has to say, finding excuses to sit near him, walk with him…. He’ll get the message.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: Hi, if this is the real phyllis….

Question:
Hi, if this is the real phyllis and not just some handy assistant impersonating. I do not have my poster yet. barrak obama(whoooooo!) is already president. and there are a few things in the movie and book i should point out. Patrick is a redhead not blond. Alice and pam were so not competing. Patricks underwear was red with white polka dots(or vice versa my memory in not that good).since when is mallory(or whatever her name is) asian she is a brunette and dates lester for a while. Lester is brunette too. That is just some critique (all writers need some). but besides that i love your books i am thirteen and have been reading them since 5th grade when i was asigned a boo report and found your book and just kept on reading the series. I think it was fate. i have read all 21 and is waiting for the 22nd in june. bye and again. I love your books

PHYLLIS Replied:

Yep, I’m the real Phyllis. My secretary has been gone for several weeks. If you do not get your poster in two more weeks, please request it again and be sure to give your complete name and address. As for the movie–yes, yes, yes–you are correct, but as I told my readers when I announced that the DVD, “Alice Upside Down,” was now available, the director and producers made many changes. I did not write the script or do the casting. I suggested that you approach the movie as something similar but not identical to “The Agony of Alice.” See them as two separate things, and enjoy the movie as it is.
Obviously,you know the Alice books well and I’m glad you enjoy them so much.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

Question: I have to dress as the famous person that I am reading about. Any suggestions?

Question:
Hi! My name is Kayla. I am in 6th grade. For my Language Arts project, I had to pick a famous person to read about. I chose your book, ‘How I Came to be a Writer” because I am interested in writing. I really liked this book. Now that I read your book, it made me want to write even more. For my project, I have to dress as the famous person that I am reading about. Any suggestions? I know that your web sites have FAQ and I will use that information along with what I read in the book to complete my assignment. I am looking forward to reading some of your Alice books.

PHYLLIS Replied:
Well, I begin writing as soon as I get up in the morning, so I’m usually in my pajamas.

Posted on: January 29, 2009

 

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